Thing is, he feels everything at full throttle. So if he is happy, it’s 100%. If he is angry, it is 100%. If he is disappointed…. you get the picture. One afternoon about a month ago, I picked the kids up from a playdate and the dad commented, “Wow, Cosmo is a trip. He is either at a 10 or a 1!” I certainly didn’t take this as a compliment, but honestly I was not surprised. Cos is intuitive, loving, and generous. At the same time, he often carries his emotions on his sleeves.
So how do I help this beautiful one find his center, his calm? We have been talking lately about peace, self-control and soothing and calming our hearts. I believe that Cosmo has the ability to do this – to acknowledge his feelings and harness his energy. He has a capacity for stillness and focus, so meditation and prayer have been a source of comfort. For example, a couple of weeks ago, the 3 children and I sat together in meditation, reciting Isaiah 26:3, “You keep in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on you.” At other times, he and I agree that it would be a good idea to go back to his bed and do a “reset”. I encourage him to find his breath and to use his words.
With these techniques, my hope is to give Cos a toolbox he can draw from in dealing with his big emotions. Each child is unique and I never want to squelch or shame. My heart is to shepherd and coach them along in becoming who God has made them to be.
Do you have an extreme child? If so, what are some of the tools in your parent toolbox?