Do you think some parents have an intrinsic knack from being non-anxious in any situation? I was talking with a fellow mama the other day about children, sibling conflict, defiance and disrespect, and general fussiness. We joked about how easy it is to shout, “Would you stop SHOUTING!?”
How do you keep your cool as a parent?
Even though it may seem like some parents have a higher threshold for madness, I do believe that harmony and temperance can be learned and practiced. When we are loving unconditionally, we have no reason to blow our top. Even when I become the target of my child’s aggression, I must respond with compassion. I don’t see that as weak – in fact I see it as supremely strong.
I think there is a level of detachment that has to happen in intense situations with children. I can not be tied to whether or not my kids like me in any given moment. I can not be worrying about what they might say to me. If I have clearly and consistently laid out boundaries for them, then I can confidently stand by those boundaries and not be swayed by their agitation or imbalance.