Last week, a mama left me a voicemail, “Nikki, I need to have a conversation with you and it’s not going to be fun.”
You can imagine my angst in returning that phone call! My mind was spinning about all the ways I might have offended her, or inappropriate deeds my kids might have done. Was it a Facebook post that didn’t set well with her? Is it my choice of reading material? My use of technology? Is she concerned that I practice yoga and have introduced it to my kids, and thus to their friends?
My mind spun for about an hour. Then I came to myself. Although I know I have blind spots, I am parenting my children in the way I have chosen, and I have nothing to fear from the opinions of others. This realization and reminder was so comforting to me that I picked up the phone and made the call. I received her concerns with humility and understanding.
This mama and I talked through everything and it worked out fine. The issue was regarding security and safety during playtime on my property. Her concern had to do with girls and boys mingling – and she needed to understand my play protocol. THAT WAS IT!! What an easy conversation it could have been. Instead I allowed her initial voicemail trip me up into insecurity and self-doubt.
It is so freeing when we can be bold and confident in our own skin – and in our own intentions. When we unhinge our identity from external influence, we can soar without hindrance. When we are true to ourselves, authentically, we can buffer the criticism and even judgement of others. And what’s even better? When we respond with a clear head and interact with the person humbly, the conversation has nowhere to go but UP!
Ultimately, I am thankful for this experience because it reminds me that being attached to the opinions of others is toxic. There is no room for this in the healthy soul. Call me and let’s talk more about this. 🙂